What Do I Mean By Girl & Boy Toys?I guess what I mean by this title is that there is this stigma about boys playing with boy toys and girls playing with girl toys. Growing up, I had my fair share of Barbies and Bratz laying around my room. But, as I got a little older, I also had my share of "boy" toys. I never thought that this was a problem. I liked what I liked and my parents never made me feel like I was less of a girl for playing with guy things and sometimes wanting guy shirts because they had Mario and Yoshi and the girl's section didn't have that. I never felt less like a girl because I liked video games, action figures, monster trucks and Beyblades. It wasn't until I was 19 and in a college level sociology class, that I realized some people actually look down upon this.
"I will never let my son play with action figures because it's a doll."It must have been our second class and our professor starting talking about gender roles and how
The next question my professor asked us was who would let their kids play with the opposite sex toys. More than half the room raised their hands, including me. She then asked the opposite and still a few people raised their hands. When she asked why, one man spoke out and said he would never let his son play with any kind of girl toy and wouldn't even let him play with action figures.
After that class, I never realized that others felt that way. I didn't have brothers growing up, but I always thought it was okay to play with toys not in my gender.
"My son wanted a Barbie because Spider-man has a girlfriend."Children playing or even wanting the opposite gender's toys, doesn't mean that they want them for the reasons you might think. I remember this story from my cousin, whose son was only about 4 at the time. They went to the store and he wanted a Barbie. She didn't know why he wanted the Barbie, but she bought it for him. Turns out, he wanted the Barbie because he had a Spider-man action figure and Spider-man has a girlfriend, so he had to have something to play his girlfriend! You never know what's going through the mind of a child, so try not to assume something so quickly.
More acceptable for girls than boysNowadays, it's more acceptable for girls to play with boy toys than it is for boys to play with girl toys. Why is this? The only thing I can think of is, like the great Madonna once said,
"Girls can wear jeans and cut their hair short
Wear shirts and boots 'cause it's okay to be a boy
But for a boy to look like a girl is degrading
'Cause you think that being a girl is degrading"
(song linked at the end of this)
In ConclusionIn conclusion, it's your life and it's your kid and it's none of my business. But try not to look down on the boy watching Barbie movie or the girl with the Pokemon cards in her pocket. None of this stuff automatically makes them gay or lesbian, they're just being themselves. Besides, don't we all like our men a little sensitive and our women a little rough around the edges?
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