Wednesday, November 21, 2018

Rainy Thoughts: Girls & Boys Toys

Hello everyone! Tomorrow is Thanksgiving and I finally have some time off from my full-time job! Thought I'd celebrate by writing a new rainy thoughts! I've been posting a lot of book-related content and I really wanted to write something a little off topic. This topic is actually something I've been wanting to write about for a while and thought it really appropriate for the gift-giving season coming up. Here are my thoughts on girl and boy toys.

What Do I Mean By Girl & Boy Toys?

I guess what I mean by this title is that there is this stigma about boys playing with boy toys and girls playing with girl toys. Growing up, I had my fair share of Barbies and Bratz laying around my room. But, as I got a little older, I also had my share of "boy" toys. I never thought that this was a problem. I liked what I liked and my parents never made me feel like I was less of a girl for playing with guy things and sometimes wanting guy shirts because they had Mario and Yoshi and the girl's section didn't have that. I never felt less like a girl because I liked video games, action figures, monster trucks and Beyblades. It wasn't until I was 19 and in a college level sociology class, that I realized some people actually look down upon this.

"I will never let my son play with action figures because it's a doll."

It must have been our second class and our professor starting talking about gender roles and how
there are boy toys and girl toys. She then asked the class who was aloud to play with the opposite sex toys. I was surprised as I raised my hand and I was only 1 of 4 out of a class of about 23 who raised their hand. One lady then raised her hand and said that if she always wanted to play with trucks, but her mother wouldn't allow it.

The next question my professor asked us was who would let their kids play with the opposite sex toys. More than half the room raised their hands, including me. She then asked the opposite and still a few people raised their hands. When she asked why, one man spoke out and said he would never let his son play with any kind of girl toy and wouldn't even let him play with action figures.

After that class, I never realized that others felt that way. I didn't have brothers growing up, but I always thought it was okay to play with toys not in my gender.

"My son wanted a Barbie because Spider-man has a girlfriend."

Children playing or even wanting the opposite gender's toys, doesn't mean that they want them for the reasons you might think. I remember this story from my cousin, whose son was only about 4 at the time. They went to the store and he wanted a Barbie. She didn't know why he wanted the Barbie, but she bought it for him. Turns out, he wanted the Barbie because he had a Spider-man action figure and Spider-man has a girlfriend, so he had to have something to play his girlfriend! You never know what's going through the mind of a child, so try not to assume something so quickly.

More acceptable for girls than boys

Nowadays, it's more acceptable for girls to play with boy toys than it is for boys to play with girl toys. Why is this? The only thing I can think of is, like the great Madonna once said,
"Girls can wear jeans and cut their hair short
Wear shirts and boots 'cause it's okay to be a boy
But for a boy to look like a girl is degrading
'Cause you think that being a girl is degrading"
(song linked at the end of this)

In Conclusion 

In conclusion, it's your life and it's your kid and it's none of my business. But try not to look down on the boy watching Barbie movie or the girl with the Pokemon cards in her pocket. None of this stuff automatically makes them gay or lesbian, they're just being themselves. Besides, don't we all like our men a little sensitive and our women a little rough around the edges?

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Thursday, November 15, 2018

Rainy Books: Without Hesitation by Talia Jager

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Without Hesitation (Beyond Earth Book #1) Publication Date: June 16th, 2017 Genre: LGBT/ Sci-Fi/ Adventure Synopsis: Without Hesitation is set a thousand years in the future. Earth has become a wasteland. Humans traveled into space to colonize other suitable planets. Labels and stereotypes are a thing of the past and gender and sexual identity are as fluid as love as humans strive to survive. Here we meet Everleigh, the commander of her ship named Nirvana. She is under the control of an evil madman, Caspar, who keeps her family captive. He sends her to Valinor to abduct the Empress Akacia. When she arrives, she is taken back by Akacia’s beauty and when the Empress fights back, Everleigh realizes she has met her match.
**This book is an LGBTQ story with a female/ female relationship.**
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“Oh, bugger!” she muttered from her dressing room. “What?” “I’m stuck.” She giggled. “I’m going to find the sales lady to help.” “No! I’ll help. Open your door.” A few seconds passed before I heard the lock click. She opened the door and I walked in and locked it behind me. “Zipper’s stuck.” She moved her hair so I could see. I struggled with the zipper for a minute before working it loose. I pulled it down exposing the intricate tattoos down her back. “Wow…” Pink flamed her cheeks. “Phases of our moon, Oro.” I trailed my fingers down her back and she shuddered. It took everything in me not to lean in and kiss her. Our eyes met in the mirror. Her blue eyes were wide with curiosity and bright with anticipation. She tilted her head to the side just enough to expose the long line of her neck and that made my heart speed out of control. I closed the small space between us and let my lips touch her skin. Her breath hitched. She was so warm, so soft, and so perfect. My lips trailed soft kisses up to her ear, she trembled and let out a low moan. I circled her waist with one arm to steady her. My heart felt like it was going to jump out of my body. Every inch of my skin warmed. Akacia turned so that we were face to face and her hand came up to cup my cheek. I rested my hands on her waist. Her gaze darted from my eyes to my lips. She muttered something about hesitation and then her soft, supple lips were on mine. It was my turn to be surprised. Nobody had ever been so bold, but I was only startled for a beat before I seized her lips and deepened the kiss. When Akacia pulled away the tiniest of moans escaped my mouth. A smile played on her lips that I swear tasted like honey. She tangled her hands in my hair at the back of my neck. There was a knock on the door. “Do you need help?” Akacia giggled and I answered, “No. Just another minute.” -Without Horizons

Author Pic.jpgAbout the Author Talia is no stranger to labels and judgment. She has slowly been developing her voice for those who need help speaking up. She believes that someday labels will be a thing of the past, that sexuality will be fluid, love will be love, and mental illness will be handled with love and care. Talia is an author with fifteen books published including: Damaged: Natalie’s Story, Teagan’s Story: Her Battle With Epilepsy, If I Die Young, Secret Bloodline, Lost and Found, The Gifted Teens Series, The Between Worlds Series and The Beyond Earth Series. When she’s not writing, she enjoys hiking red rocks or sitting on the beach with a Kindle in her hands and her toes in the ocean.
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Tuesday, November 13, 2018

Book Review: Gratitude: The Art of Being Thankful by Vickie Phelps

Vickie Phelps
Genre: Non-Fiction / Inspirational / Devotional
Publisher: Inspire Books
Date of Publication: July 11, 2017
Number of Pages: 92, 4.5″ x 6″
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This ninety-two-page gift book is a compilation of devotions, poems, prayers, and lists of things to be grateful for. The difference between having what you want and having what you need is a principle some people never grasp. In the reading of this book, you may realize you have much more to be grateful for than you were aware of. Use this little book as a daily devotional or pick it up at random times to remind yourself that you are a blessed individual.


 "This little gem of a book arrived before we left on vacation,
so I took it along. It became our shared devotional and 'thought
for the day' outlook...and colored our time away with gratitude.
This unique discovery is one to treasure."
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What Was Enjoyable

I am going to start this off by talking about the size of this book. It's just too adorable not to love! This is such a cute little book that is easy to put in your purse and take with you to work, dinner, ravel, or wherever you go! The author definitely went with the right size for the content when she was creating this book.

Secondly, one may enjoy the different types of format on each page. One page may be a Biblical quote, while the next page is one of the authors own testimonials and then the next page is a quote. It's a neat little surprise each time you turn the page. 

And last, this is just a nice book to keep you on track of the things you should be thankful for every day, hence the title.

 What Was Least Enjoyable

There was nothing really to not like about this book. The author is very honest and open and just really wants you to remember to be thankful. Who doesn't like being thankful?


Overall, I would definitely pick this book up for a relative, friend or co worker for the upcoming holidays or for one's birthday. It's a nice pocket book filled with something new each read and each day your read it.  Until next time, Happy Reading!
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 About the Author

Vickie Phelps writes to encourage, inspire, and influence. She has published 200 articles, devotionals, and essays in more than fifty magazines and contributed to several anthologies. Vickie is the author of the novels, Postmark From the Past, Moved, Left No Address, Waiting for Joy, and a devotional book, Psalms for the Common Man. Vickie is co-author with Jo Huddleston of the gift book, Simply Christmas, and Writing 101: A Handbook of Tips & Encouragement for Writers.

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November 7-16, 2018
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